Who To Blame?
Try not to get into blaming each other over who or what caused the infidelity. It’s just a waste energy. That includes blaming the third party. It won’t change anything. You may have post-traumatic pressures from the emotional affairs dilemma. If you are too uneasy and hyper, yell at trivial actions, feel like you are walking on egg shells, and continue to have physical reactions when you are reminded of the infidelity, see an expert as soon as possible.
It takes time to get away from the pain of having an unfaithful mate. Don’t expect the combination of feelings, the sense of confusion and limbo, and the mistrust to go away just because you’ve tried to forgive your spouse and made a commitment to save your marriage.
